We Are Both Mothers

A stay at home mom and a working mom never seem to get the credit where credit is due. One has to hear she isn't being a mom because she has to provide financially for her child. The other is told she doesn't have a real job because what she does gets paid in hugs and kisses. Yet those who are so prone to make accusations never have had the ability to walk a mile in either's shoes. They've never had to kiss a child good bye as the child cries, clinging to your feet, screaming "Mommy please don't go." As your heart melts trying to detach the child knowing if you don't there won't be a house to live in or food to eat. They've never had to be that mom that's wearing clothes from before the child was born, far from in style because your child needed new shoes. The working mom does what she can to provide for her family leaving little time for herself she comes and picks the child up from daycare, taking her little free time to cook, clean, and spend time with her child before bedtime. She is the last face her child sees before bed and the first face the child sees in the morn. Yet still she is chastised as not being a "real" mother. The stay at home mom has no time for herself. Her work begins before anyone wakes and ends never. She's cleaning and doing laundry while watching her child(ren). She's the first face they see in the morning and the last face they see at night while her paycheck may not pay bills it pays her heart. Yet still society tells her what she does isn't a job. Yet society hasn't taken a moment to work a day in her life. How can anyone not experience what the working mom or stay at home mom does and yet chastise them for the choices they may have not even had the choice to make on their own? It's what fits their family. For each loves their child(ren). Cares for their child(ren). Yet their status of "mother" and "worker" is challenged. But every day there are children born to those who could care less whether their child(ren) have food or clothes. They only care about themselves and getting theirs. Yet these females are still honored with the title of "mother". How? A mother is any women who would do anything to make sure their child(ren) are loved and cared for. Whether you are a working mom or a stay at home mom you are a mother. Your child's needs are always first and foremost on your mind. What you do whether it's paid in a check or in hugs and kisses is a job. Those who have the audacity to say else wise have never known our sacrifices. But that's alright. Our children know where our hearts lie and know how much Mommy loves them. That, society will never be able to take from us.....pure, unconditional love.